How many times have you been insulted by someone, felt whatever type of emotion the insult evoked only to have them say…I was just kidding with you 😯. In my mind that statement begs the question “How was I supposed to know you were joking?” I mean, aren’t jokes supposed to make you laugh—at what point does that change? When is it simply a lack of discernment on the part of the individual hiding behind the “I’m just kidding” phrase? Too many times I have witnessed or have been the chief recipient of the “so called” joke (…that no one laughed at). I now wonder why the person who made the comment didn’t simply opt to insult me instead. Was it their failed attempt at appearing less offensive in the eyes of others? Did they assume that my feelings would be hurt but they can claim that wasn’t their intension? If someone makes crass comments and/or rude jokes directed toward you in a way that was NOT FUNNY—what is it called?
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I am a poet with an interest in topics that include themes of unity, sensitivity and equality, in addition to the study of women writers of the postmodern era and the experimental genre of contemporary poetry. As a starting point for the focus of my poetry, I am working through interpreting personal observations of the homeless situation in Detroit. In my community and surrounding areas, I have witnessed and experienced discriminatory practices that resulted in senseless divisions in the work place, schools, communities and neighborhoods with increasing numbers of homeless people. Exposure to these real life situations made me question the amount of attention that local governments give to matters of equality, sensitivity and homelessness. I am concerned that there aren’t enough voices in local leadership such as block clubs and community organizations, that encourage passive citizens to become engaged. In the tradition of political activism, I am working through ways to deliver these messages. At this point of development in my poetic practice, I use compression, the tension of the line, and the sounds of language to stress social acceptance and cultural sensitivities. View all posts by T.Dwella